By Kristin Twombly
To look or not to look: that is the question couples have been asking us lately. The “first look” is a trend where the bride and groom see each other before the ceremony in a private and beautiful location away from the crowd. That’s right – BEFORE the ceremony. Afterwards your photographer takes some amazing portraits of the two of you before all of the craziness of the day begins (and your hair still looks perfect!)
When I first learned about the first look I thought: it’s not for me. As a girl I always envisioned that once-in-a-lifetime moment when my groom first laid eyes on me as I walked down in the aisle in my gown. It’s what my mother did, and her mother before her, and I love the idea of following in their footsteps.
But after seeing so many beautiful first look moments, I began to love the idea more and more. Here are a few reasons why:
It is more intimate
A first look creates a more personal moment for seeing each other for the first time. You can openly laugh, cry, wipe tears, kiss and hold hands, without an audience. And since you will be pulled in a million different directions throughout the day, this could be a rare moment for you two to enjoy alone.
It can help you to relax
I’ve seen it countless times…once the happy couple finally see each other, their nerves simply dissipate. They can spend some quality one and one time before facing the day together.
It allows for more time with your guests
Getting your romantics done before the ceremony will allow you for more time with your guests – you might even be able to enjoy your cocktail hour! It can also alleviate stress during the family portrait time which is a jam packed part of your day with a tight timeline.
It creates beautiful pictures
The First Look pictures are really special!
Says wedding photographer Lauren Methia from Boston, “From a photographer’s perspective a first look is often my favorite from the entire day. I love the opportunity to document this private moment between bride and groom. The reactions are always genuine which makes for some really amazing natural photographs. There is no posing because there is a natural joining together, hugging, twirling the bride, etc. These couples are so much more relaxed on their wedding day! Many couples think it will take away from the walk down the aisle but the experiences are completely separate – both special in there own way. ”
However, many couples opt to pass on the First Look. It is tradition in many cultures not see each other until the ceremony –there are some superstitions that say to do otherwise could be bad luck. Some couples think that the First Look can feel a little staged, versus capturing that natural and organic emotion from the ceremony. Others think this is just a fad, and later they will regret one day that they did not adhere to tradition.
At the end of the day, it’s simply a personal choice you have to make together. Regardless of what you decide to do, the first time you lay eyes on each other on your wedding day is bound to be one of the happiest, most beautiful moments of your life – so be sure to enjoy it!
Here are some of our favorite First Looks pictures from BD Weddings.